https://intentionalizemylife.com Intentionalize My Life Sat, 21 Oct 2023 18:15:42 +0000 https://intentionalizemylife.com en https://intentionalizemylife.com/Landing-Desktop-V10-20-23 Thu, 28 Apr 2022 19:59:01 +0000 Intentionalize My Life https://intentionalizemylife.com/Landing-Desktop-V10-20-23 <img width="1707" height="512" width_o="1707" height_o="512" data-src="https://freight.cargo.site/t/original/i/0ff310ad368988c68da020dd35dbd7cd7e3793f0bf585f1a9aea70491940a3bb/Asset-2av.png" data-mid="194261675" border="0" data-scale="98" src="https://freight.cargo.site/w/1000/i/0ff310ad368988c68da020dd35dbd7cd7e3793f0bf585f1a9aea70491940a3bb/Asset-2av.png" /> about values pricing https://intentionalizemylife.com/Hero Fri, 06 May 2022 20:50:00 +0000 Intentionalize My Life https://intentionalizemylife.com/Hero &nbsp;Damon ︎&nbsp; https://intentionalizemylife.com/Strapline Sat, 21 Oct 2023 18:15:42 +0000 Intentionalize My Life https://intentionalizemylife.com/Strapline Be a better version of yourself in the relationships that matter most Regardless of where those relationships might be headed https://intentionalizemylife.com/Problem Thu, 28 Apr 2022 19:59:03 +0000 Intentionalize My Life https://intentionalizemylife.com/Problem Nobody teaches us how to relationship. Not really. People try. Dads, brothers, mentors, and school counselors try to teach us something about relationships.All that advice mostly boils down to a collection of tactics that still leave us wondering why we suck at it (despite having decades of experience). Nobody else can give us wisdom. They can share best practices, but nobody can tell us how we’re to show up in the world. Wisdom arises from experience. It evolves over time, but it has always been available. More on that in a minute. We’re each different. Making matters worse, the relationship that most often is causing us the most stress is the one with ourselves. And if you read that last line thinking, “Not me.” Are you sure? This is what I’m sure about. ✔️ There’s probably something worth exploring. ✔️ It’s never all on them, even when it’s so obviously all on them. ✔️ There is a more empowered and confident version of me that can unfold with time and exploration. Men work with me when they believe they can be a better version of themselves in the relationships that matter most, regardless of where those relationships might be headed. https://intentionalizemylife.com/Cure Thu, 28 Apr 2022 19:59:03 +0000 Intentionalize My Life https://intentionalizemylife.com/Cure What you and I do We have a conversation, but not quite like a conversation with a good friend, as valuable as those may be. In a coaching conversation, one gets the space to externalize their thoughts completely. Being allowed to speak without interruption, beyond the pauses of normal sharing, what comes out can be very interesting and useful. Elements and themes show up in what I call “an unfolding,” not unlike the way a new leaf opens. This unfolding is where we find the gold. (Interestingly, it was in you the whole time.) ☞ One can unfold so powerfully that they find all the resourcefulness they’ll ever desire within. As such, I take the position that a coach needn’t be a permanent part of anyone’s life. Through direct inquiry of our thoughts, we deepen our relationship with them and make discoveries about what is actually true right now. This is what we do together in these conversations. Presence is central to these conversations. Also, presence is tough to describe. ☞ Every valuable moment in life happens in a state of presence in some way, either completely or mostly present. It’s something deeper than the default state of our minds. Underneath the buzz of thoughts in our heads, presence is silently there all the time. It’s possible to notice it, and in a sense, operate from that space for periods of time, but it never goes away. Most of the time, our brains are just layering over it in discursive thoughts and stories. In a coaching conversation, presence shows up as deep listening and reflection of what we’re hearing and noticing. Sometimes I’m noticing my own thoughts, and offering them to you. Mostly I’m reflecting what I’m getting from you, and asking what you notice. This is how we go deeper into those thoughts and stories, This is how we find what’s really true. What arises from these coaching conversations is co-emergent, meaning it would not have come out unless the two of us were in dialogue in this way at this time. ☞ Part of what unfolds is the relationship with wisdom.&nbsp;Learning to see and trust our own wisdom is some of the most important work we do together. If you’re curious, book time with me. Let’s find out if we’re a match. Book a 30-minute convo with me. book it https://intentionalizemylife.com/Proof-Reviews Tue, 16 Aug 2022 21:10:26 +0000 Intentionalize My Life https://intentionalizemylife.com/Proof-Reviews What folks are saying “When I first met Damon I wanted to work with him as my coach so that I could increase my performance and professional development...What I discovered through his coaching was that there were several areas of my life that I wasn't showing up the way I wanted to be. We've been working together for several months now and it's changed my life. I'm more happier and fulfilled in the way my life is today and how I show up for the people I serve and support. I bring more intention into every single aspect of my life which has enabled me to deepen my relationship with my wife and my clients.” -Matthew Biggar“Working with Damon has been a real pleasure. He made the space feel open and safe, which allowed me to share the best and worst of things that I may have been struggling to cope with, get through, or even began. Damon has a great ear and does an excellent job of listening and then nudging you in the direction that is beneficial and most helpful to you. &nbsp; He’s not there to give you the answers...&nbsp; He rather tosses ideas out there and lets you figure out which course of action is best for you. If he feels you’re getting off track, he has a unique way of bringing the focus back to what’s important. His life experiences make him empathetic and understanding, and from my personal experience working with him, he has tremendous insight and gives such valuable advice. He has helped me in so many a conundrum and difficult choices I’ve been dealt in my life.Damon is a great coach and he has your best interest at heart, always. &nbsp;He’s never failed me in this regard. &nbsp;Damon met all of my expectations and then some.”-Lee Wesley | teacher, actor, coach “Working with Damon shifted the way I relate to myself. During one of the hardest periods of my life, he helped me move beyond simply surviving. Through parts work, presence anchoring, and an entirely new model of authentic connection with other men, I learned to approach my thoughts and emotions with curiosity. That shift changed how I navigate conflict, parent my daughters, lead my business, and show up in every important relationship. It’s difficult to overstate the impact his guidance has had on the person I’m becoming.” -Josh “Damon is a skilled professional coach that really takes the time to understand the obstacles that a person may be confronting. His superb active listening skills and empathetic approach make it very easy for a person that speaks with him and opens up. I would highly recommend Damon as a coach!” -Brian “Damon has been coaching me for almost a year now and I have learned that he is also calm, disciplined, respectful, and compassionate... It feels like magic, sometimes hard magic, but defiantly magic.He has helped me reclaim the confidence I had lost, which then gave me the courage to be intentional and deeply authentic, which for me meant setting boundaries at work, seeking help on projects, honoring my needs, and, yes, sometimes accepting what is.” -Steven “On meeting Damon, I immediately felt at ease. His calm manner naturally encouraged our conversation. I expected him to fire questions at me left, right, and center, but rather, he led me through a discussion guided by my own intentions.“ -Kevin “There’s a comfort in knowing that the next conversation with Damon is always on the horizon. Even when this moment feels insane and hard to navigate, I know I’ll land in this safe environment with him and explore these things, and then head back out into my life and to my relationships and to my leadership. Whatever unfolds these next years for me—especially in my intimate relationships—I know that I’m way better off, and I have a lot more confidence that it will be a happy, fulfilling, intimate, connected experience because I have Damon in my corner. That’s really a huge gift to me. The best peace of mind that I’m buying for myself is that I invest in coaching—and yes, therapy to work through the deeper stuff—but really I invest in our coaching. And that is what gives me a shot at having my next committed relationship that is more fulfilling and can last for a while and can handle more complexity—like having a family or running a company, all that stuff. If I had to do it on my own, there’s so much more of a chance that it fails, that I have to spend years picking up the pieces again and try again.”-J.J. https://intentionalizemylife.com/Proof-Credentials Thu, 28 Apr 2022 19:59:03 +0000 Intentionalize My Life https://intentionalizemylife.com/Proof-Credentials My credentials <img width="600" height="600" width_o="600" height_o="600" data-src="https://freight.cargo.site/t/original/i/67487d839f0978078e6af2aae02b1e85ab7dd511213ad45dde42114b8fd9ba8f/associate-certified-coach-acc.png" data-mid="208123436" border="0" data-scale="100" src="https://freight.cargo.site/w/600/i/67487d839f0978078e6af2aae02b1e85ab7dd511213ad45dde42114b8fd9ba8f/associate-certified-coach-acc.png" /> ✓ Peer Counseler ‘91 &nbsp; | Mounds Park Academy✓ BA ‘97 | &nbsp;Viterbo University✓ Leadership Coaching Team ‘02 &nbsp;| &nbsp;24 Hour Fitness✓ Core Essentials ‘22 &nbsp;| &nbsp;CoachU✓ Associate Certified Coach ’23 &nbsp;| &nbsp;International Coaching Federation https://intentionalizemylife.com/Offer Thu, 28 Apr 2022 19:59:04 +0000 Intentionalize My Life https://intentionalizemylife.com/Offer You have to experience it Describing my process or the mechanics of coaching sessions will only engage the cognition parts of your brain. I know firsthand how unhelpful this is. Two of my top five strengths* are intellection and input. I love researching and chewing on ideas. But living from my neocortex rarely tells me what’s true for me.&nbsp; (*From Clifton StrengthsFinder) Instead of just contemplating the self, coaching accesses the whole body to work through what is really true in order to discern what is truly possible. How we begin Engagements begin in much the same way. We get into conversation. Because it’s hard to describe what I do, the best course of action is for us to jump in the shallow end of the pool and splash around. ☞The commitment to coach is more than a financial one. To get somewhere, we often need more than an hour conversation. As of this writing, I don’t accept money or contracts without an initial period of conversations. That can be for up to a month or until someone feels like they get how it works. From there, we can proceed with a more formal engagement. How we work Conversations begin one of two ways: 1. You arrive with a topic or… 2. You have a handful of topics In any case, we’ll figure it out together. Then we set an intention for the conversation, and we start exploring. We do not always end with action items. We can, but often that action is to marinate on what we’ve discussed and pick it back up later. Lastly, coaching engagements are not limited to formal coaching conversations. I use WhatsApp to keep an open channel for asynchronous communication and sharing. For example, I may offer useful tools like blogs, articles or podcasts as they seem appropriate. https://intentionalizemylife.com/Book-First-Convo Wed, 20 Jul 2022 14:38:58 +0000 Intentionalize My Life https://intentionalizemylife.com/Book-First-Convo &nbsp;Book a format-free 30-minute convo with me.&nbsp; book it&nbsp; https://intentionalizemylife.com/Email-Form Thu, 28 Apr 2022 20:17:27 +0000 Intentionalize My Life https://intentionalizemylife.com/Email-Form